Transformation is as transformation does. Here, Austin-based Resonance RepatternIng practitioner, Mary Schneider shares insight on how you can create greater personal growth in 2014.
What does it mean to participate in transformation? What does this process look like and what does it entail? As we contemplate the beginning of a bright New Year, what would we like to be better in 2014?
At this time of year, we traditionally evaluate the year that has just passed and look to the New Year for something that is going to be more, better, or different. How do we suppose that is going to happen for us? Unless we take the chance to look at ourselves from a different perspective, it is probably not going to happen. Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If we take this integral piece of wisdom to heart, we will want to look at creating things for the better in new and different ways.
As human beings, we all have a tendency to look outside of ourselves for the answers to our problems and symptoms of distress. The answers really cannot be found in the external world. We think that if we just had more money, a better job, a different relationship… that things will be better. A very wise friend of mine once said, “Wherever you go, there you are.” More money, a better job, a different relationship, etc., are not going to lead us to more, better or different experiences and feelings in any deep and lasting way. If we really want this kind of change to occur, we would want to engage ourselves in real transformation.
This is a process. Where to go, who to see, and what kind of help we need are all very important questions to find the answers to and typically it’s very confusing. One of the great paradoxes of this process is that in order to really heal ourselves we have to learn to trust. However, we generally do not learn to trust unless we have healed ourselves. How do we effectively bridge this gap and move towards what will be helpful to us? In my experience, this usually has to do with the power of intention.
Intention is an aim, plan or purpose that literally moves energy. Intention makes everything in the universe work. The intention of the sun is to shine and create warmth and brightness – and to come up every morning. Intention creates the resolve necessary to be or act in a particular manner. What I have continually seen in my practice over the years is that if someone actually does have the intention to make things more, better or different, the particular modus operandi for their issues’ resolution will appear.
This is the motivation to learn and grow in trust. For when a human being is having a difficult time in life (and we all experience this at any given time), their resolution to find a way to move through and beyond what is troubling them is in itself an act of trust. This is also true with regard to finding more, better, and different. Setting the intention and then allowing that the universe will always discern our level of commitment and will respond accordingly creates movement. What we need to move us to the next level of our growth and development will show up.
Generally, when we are in the process of transformation, what we are dealing with is not on a conscious level. The negative thought patterns, limiting belief systems and our family system’s rules and expectations are stored in our subconscious. In order for us to move into something more, better or different, we have to search for these, look at them, contemplate them and see how they have affected our lives. Then, when we have been through this step of the process, we have to let them go. This is a complex and beautiful process that we are really unable to do for ourselves. Prayer, affirmations and positive thinking are all very helpful and in order for us to really transform, and we can look at the subconscious in all its myriad iterations and get comfortable with it.
Know thyself. The Greeks said it thousands of years ago and it is just as true today as it was then. In this bright, shiny New Year of 2014, let us resolve to move into transformation by getting to know ourselves. What waits beyond this, is beyond anything that we have been able to envision or imagine. May this be the best year ever for all of you.