Changes in life are a constant. You can fight them or be an insurgent with them. It is your choice. Austin-based Resonance RepatternIng Practitioner, Mary Schneider, shares her healing insight on understanding and creating change.

The one constant in life, change, is a huge issue with many layers. What happens to us when change occurs? How do we deal with it effectively so that we can move through it easily and effortlessly with as little fear and anxiety as possible? Here are some options I recommend you consider.

Change is a major catalyst for growth and transformation. Even when the change is seemingly negative, the resultant lessons learned are powerful and life-affirming. How can we harness this fact of life, change, and use it to catapult us into another way of being – creating a new paradigm?

The best place to start is to make a commitment to ourselves that we will use everything to our advantage, no matter what life hands us. A spiritual teacher espoused three basic, very simple tenets for living the good life. The first tenet is take care of yourself so that you can take care of others. The second is never ‘should’ on yourself, with telling yourself what you ‘should’ do. The third one is use everything to your advantage. Each one of these is very profound and stands on its own. The third tenet fundamentally applies in terms of change.

In telling us to use everything to our advantage, the spiritual teacher was inviting us to see everything that occurs in our lives as an agent for transformation. Many times I listen to people tell me that what they are currently experiencing in their lives is excruciatingly painful and difficult to cope with and I have certainly found this to be true in my own life. And, when the healing journey comes to an end and it has passed to create change, many times the situation was, in the end, ultimately well-worth the stress, pain and discomfort.

The path to enlightenment can be arduous and difficult. The Buddhists say, “Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.” It is not that life gets easier. Our attitude toward what is happening changes. We begin to accept that change is a part of life and may, in fact, lead us to places, people and situations beyond what we could have ever envisioned. Instead of seeing a difficult, painful situation as something that should not have occurred, we learn to accept it as the best thing that could possibly happen for us at that time in order for us to grow and potentiate.

I had another spiritual teacher tell me that, “Everything happens for the best.” And, I had a very difficult time accepting that one. However, as life progresses and we look back at the divergent paths we have wandered down, the simple statement that everything happens for the best becomes profoundly real. Byron Katie, a rare, enlightened being who was an average American woman, invented “The Work”  and says that this is a kind and benevolent world; that all of our experiences are exactly what we need to have happen in order for us to be whole, happy human beings living from our true nature. How do we know this? Simply because it happened. And, she says, “Your true nature is love”.

The one constant in all of this growth and evolution is change. It is the catalyst for living a happy, carefree life; one in which much of the drama that takes us out of our centered selves is diminished. One of the most encouraging results I have seen in watching people engage in the healing process is that the time it takes them to move through painful experiences gets shorter and shorter. If, when they started, they are in a relationship that does not work out, it takes them six months to a year to get over it and move on. As the healing process progresses, relationships that don’t work out can often take a month or two weeks to heal. WIth this growth, the time that it used to take them through a long, protracted and painful healing experience is reduced dramatically. All of this has been brought about by changes occurring one after another, throughout the healing process and our lives. Whether or not we actually embrace the change usually does not make any difference. We still experience it, grow and transform, much of time in spite of ourselves.

Maybe we need to begin to think about change as something positive and as the key to something greater in ourselves. I recommend we think about embracing change for what it really is. Let us be our own insurgents for change. And, while we are embracing this, let us also remember that we need to take care of ourselves so we can take care of others. Remember that as constant as change and transition are it is also a constant that we can and do deserve help with it – and this is just as important. When we are inundated with too much change and transition, remember to support one another through the process and support ourselves by recognizing the inherent difficulty and get some help. It is OK to seek help. And, our lessons will be much easier and still profoundly rewarding.

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